** Warning : Included in this blog entry are some very troubling messages recently sent to us and absolutely DO NOT reflect our views, ideals, or beliefs. **
….and so it is….
Perhaps one of the hardest lessons in life to learn is that
in a time when we preach freedom of choice, freedom of decision and that the
world holds limitless possibilities for each of us - the reality nonetheless is
that sometimes we don’t get to chose.
Sometimes circumstances decide for you, and no matter how much you might
have worked for something, how much you have struggled, or how valiantly you
strive onward there are no options.
Even in the 21st century with all of our science,
statistics and innovations….sometimes our fate is still in the hands of the
gods, the stars are out of alignment, and events that are beyond the control of
any single individual determine our course.
Sometimes you can seek to avoid the foreseeable by choosing
the route over the other – but such options often only delay the
inevitable. I have frequently found that
struggling against the predictable outcome is often a tough and unproductive
path.
There is no making sense of it, no figuring it out, and no
logic behind it. Sometimes, it just is…
To struggle against the tides of such moments and try to
keep pushing on would be to ensure ruin.
The only realistic answer then is to chart a course through the storm –
no matter how rough the seas or how fierce the winds – and to help one another
get through it as best as we can.
This is why after our
time in quarantine we decided not to take a single step on The Great Trail
until the situation with Covid has been brought under control. And yet for a few fanatical individuals, even
this was not enough as since “merely contemplating going outdoors means that you deserve
to be punished and die for that alone”.
Given the strains of thought, types of comments, and graphic
details that were being posted with our last blog entry we have temporarily
unpublished it – as its sole message,
that we did not hike and that we were not presently hiking was missed by so many.
Those who follow our trek have now seen the types of daily
emails and threats we have gotten and continue to receive since setting out on
this amazing hike across Canada. Unfortunately the comments left on our
previous blog entries pale in comparison to the graphic messages, delusions,
and detailed threats we have recently now received by email. Sadly there is little that can be done to stop
such comments as most are anonymous and laws lag far behind the modes of
communication found in the digital world.
Online Commentary and
its Influence
While the loss of this moment and time on the trail is
heartbreaking it is, as always, the online commentary that worries me the most. Not for myself, sadly I have now become used
to the name calling, the harassment, the intimation that I should be attacked, the
hope that we die on the trail, the references to people ‘hunting us down on the
trail’, 'humbling us', and threats against us. I worry because
there are so many young people who are growing up watching this type of
discourse and who now must think that these types of attacks and this type of
commentary are normal – or worse virtuous.
That such messages that ‘hit and run’ with no thought to anything beyond
making the author feel superior for a moment should be thought of as acceptable. However, the critiques of the online world
are not witty, well thought or Socratic – they are spiteful, frustrated and the
rantings of the insecure. Yet this is
the tone we have chosen for youth to experience and learn from. In that we should make no mistake as a
society - what we reap we will sow.
In the past 14 months, the tensions of Covid have revealed
the faults in our society and the cracks in our public presumptions about our
institutions and ourselves. During this
crisis we have all moved closer to that horrifying moment when we are one
paycheck away from eviction, and one meal away from hunger. If we are fortunate that this is not our
personal experience then we certainly are related to or know someone who faces
these challenges. That we can be so close to ruin is understandably terrifying for
everyone.

Perhaps more challenging than these harsh realities is that
we have all been handed the time to reflect on everything from who we are as
individuals, to what do as a society, to who we want to
be once this situation passes. Unfortunately
rather than being a time of introspection, a time spent with family and a time
of planning we have transformed the potential for reflection into a crisis of
self identity…..and so we have begun to attack one another. We no longer wish
to discuss the merits of a policy or undertakings of our society in a productive
way. We are terrified and want to reduce
everyone around us to that same state that so many are in – one of insecurity,
one of fear, and one of person against person. We
feel as though the world has turned against us and, sadly, we want everyone
else to feel the same. These days it seems no
commentary online is beyond the pale anymore.
The comments regularly left and messages posted online now
go beyond mere nay saying and critique.
Our society’s glee at posting the most vitriolic, sexist, racist,
homophobic and backward thinking ideas are no longer merely the comments of
self proclaimed experts and armchair warriors.
Instead, we have seemingly entered a realm where we have collectively
begun to delight in the failings of others, as a society we seem certain that
all that ails us is the fault of others, and because of this we set out to cast
about to attack everyone blindly. We do this
regularly online, in front of the world, and for all – including the youth in
our communities and across the nation – to watch and see.

These days, given the hardships of the moment so many seem
to have no problem looking around and saying ‘oh that person doesn’t look like
me’, or ‘that person doesn’t believe in the same gods I believe in’, or ‘that
person doesn’t dress the way I do’, or ‘that person makes different choices
than I do’ and we use these simplistic and deeply imperfect observations to leap
to the unreasonable conclusion that it is ‘them’ who are at fault for the circumstances
of the moment. ‘They’ are the ones to
blame and they are the ones who should be punished. The people who write these types of postings
have no interest in resolving the challenges of our society or helping others,
they merely want to blame so that they can distract from their own situation
feel better about themselves – if only for a moment. Despite all of our advances and achievements
we are still all too willing to build the pyres in the town square and pile all
of our misgivings and uncertainties onto others whom we can blame. For no other reason than because we cannot
understand the moment and we cannot comprehend how all that we worked so hard
for has seemingly been lost. So we criticize others,
we blame others, and we mock others because we are scared.
It seems that closer we get to absolute crisis as
individuals and as a society the more polarized, radicalized and the more terrified
we all seem to become. Our rhetoric gets
more volatile, our comments get more self righteous and so many become more
judgmental. Yet none of this addresses
the actual problems at hand, it only reflects our own personal fears, speeds up
the current social crisis and distracts from what is essential.
While it might be vogue, exciting, and temporarily
empowering to spend our days online searching out the faults of others, mocking
the failings of those we don’t know, and drafting snarky commentary to every
news announcement and blog posting. The
fact is that it does nothing to reassure any of us that we can get through this
terrible moment intact and together. In fact, I think
it does the opposite. After all, once
the comments and judgment against others begin we inherently know that someone
will do the same to us eventually – and
that we too will eventually be cornered
and ridiculed. And so we attack more and
more and more, in the hope that we are the last one standing. In this process we conflate rumor with
knowledge, critique with wisdom, presumption and assumptions with moral authority,
and group hysteria with rightful judgment. We attack with everything, and as a result our
society is left filled with only more hate and more rage making it a lonelier
and scarier place to be – especially for our youth, those who dream, and those
who strive to progress forward.

At the moment, as a society, we are temporarily lost,
because we have forgotten to stay connected to our communities and the world
around us. The world (not just because
of Covid) has for many been slowly reduced to TV screens, computer
screens, phone screens, and windows. Because of this we have forgotten that we
each need to stay connected in a meaningful way such that we know things for ourselves, we assess for ourselves, we explore for ourselves, and that we are each willing and able to empathize and view the world from
the perspective of someone else before passing judgment. Covid has exacerbated the belief that with the internet all is known so there is no need for discover and
explore for ourselves. We have forgotten that life is about how you
connect and not about how many likes, responses, and reposts you get. In the process we have forgotten all that we
have in common. We have forgotten that
the things that unite us and make us a diverse and amazing nation far outnumber
the things that divide us. We are
allowing rumour to direct us, our fears to rule us and in so doing we are deepening the crisis we
all find ourselves in.
Life and our goals in it have no guarantees, but endless
vitriol adds nothing to the situation nor does it lighten the load of others in our communities.
It is in the trying
and striving that we thrive
The venture which I have sold my house,
donated my possessions, and set aside my career for has been abruptly, unexpectedly, and temporarily
brought to a halt owning to the shifting regulations in our fight against
Covid19.
Striving to lead by example as an advocate that everyone needs to recreate responsibly I
announced that for the foreseeable future we were suspending our expedition the
Great Trail. While the vast number of followers voiced and messaged their
immediate support for this decision (and for us) there was also no denying that
many people took great delight in what they proclaimed to be an ‘epic
failure’. Nasty postings on our blog,
graphic emails, and hasty demands were also immediately sent by individuals excited
at the supposed ‘downfall of a liberal environmentalist’, a ‘hippy girl’, and
‘losers’.
Others have made it clear that we have ‘no
right to feel sad’ because we ‘deserved what we got’ because we ‘made the
choice’. We were informed that because
we made the choice to trek that we ‘are a making a mockery of Real Canadians’, that
we ‘owe real people who are actually struggling an apology’, that 'we need to get back to paying property taxes and supporting businesses not hiking and dreaming', and that we are to
‘walk door to door on our hands and knees begging and apologizing to Real
Canadians everywhere for making the country look so bad with our comments, your libtard complaints and
horrible pictures.”

One individual, who
has emailed his hate almost 50 times now, has bluntly informed us that ‘this trek
was UR dream, and it is a selfish dream that is a horrible influence on kids in
this country and U have no right forcing it on others!!!! Stop your hike and stop UR stupid posts! It is UR dream and not anyone elses!!! So shut up & QUIT!’. He has also disturbingly continually messaged that
“it is people like you who stop Real Canadians from Making Canada Great Again.”
In short, there have been a lot of
disheartening and disillusioning comments.
Thankfully, one gracious and smart friend emailed reassuring us that we
should not take these types of comments to heart because ‘Covid is making
people go crazy’. Their words of wisdom
were a wonderful balm to receive and I do hope that things get better as the
pandemic passes.
Beyond everything however, one message above all else stunned me. That being an email telling us that one
person had waited for us for two years to fail “so they could show their kids and
other people why dreaming and trying was stupid and a waste of time”.
In the midst of a cascade of emails and messages mocking and
defaming us, it was the shear pathetic bliss
that anyone would not only wait for the misstep of another individual but do so
simply so that they could tell their children to never try and to never dream
that horrified me the most. Who would
ever seek to cripple their own kin by stifling any hopes or dreams that they
may have before they can strive and try for themselves?
While I do not respond to such messages on principle I truly
hope that one day the children of this lost person and others who have been
told to never try find this blog – because
trying does matter. In fact trying matters a great deal.
Trying means you are attempting something new, which is
essential because we all learn from the experience. Even failure advances us. In striving and challenging ourselves we
learn about ourselves and the world because of this we thrive as individuals
and prosper as a society. Dreaming of
new adventures, taking new pathways, and trying for ourselves are perhaps some
of the most essential parts of us as individuals and as a people.
No matter how dark the present may seem never doubt that
trying is essential, striving forward is essential and exploring is
essential.
If we critique every dreamer and crush everyone who
tries….how do we learn anything? How do
we move forward?
Exploration and Common
Ground
I have hesitated to even acknowledge the hateful and violent
messages that we have received but I worry what my own silence says to those
who are young, daring, and who come next to the world of exploration.
We have now been repeatedly told from countless fronts to quit our
hike. There are demands to erase our
blog, delete all of our pictures, and to “tour the country apologizing to every
Real Canadian, every homeless person, and every person who REALLY struggles
in life for our flight of fancy which is only a mockery of the challenges Real & Great
Canadians face. Only then, when people like you two are on your knees in front
of Real Canadians apologizing for all your stupidity and fairy tales will Real
Canadians be able to Make Canada Great Again.”
These types of inane rantings and all that they infer that worry
me because, on so many levels the views they reflect are a dark cloud on the horizon
of our world.
Yet I still believe we need to struggle forward, still
believe that we need to hold onto our common ground, and still believe that
time in nature is essential for everyone in order to remain grounded,
knowledgeable and empathetic. And because - regardless of what is said to us - I still intend to continue on when it is possible and responsible to do so.
Right now it is very hard to see the light at the end of the
tunnel. A year that was set to be a
crowning accomplishment in this trek has disintegrated without ever hiking and
without ever taking a single step. Yet, even now, after dozens of messages of
hate and emails wishing violence upon us, I nonetheless think there is hope and
a way forward.
Trying something new and not reaching the conclusions that
you had hoped does not make you an ‘epic failure’ – it makes you a dreamer, an
inspiring individual and an epic explorer.
Failure is a learning experience (even if it hurts in the moment). If we shift to the point where we are only
willing to do what is a guaranteed success then we are truly lost as a
species. Risk, change, attempts, and
failure are all necessary to advancement and innovation as well as – I believe
– essential to our own identities as a peoples.
We used to champion those individuals who were willing to
gamble everything on one pitch of the dice, who sought to do what others
proclaimed impossible, and who set out to new frontiers but now we await their
missteps and delight in their failings.
It is undoubtedly harder to be a dreamer, explorer, and someone who
goes against the stream in this day and age.
Yet we nonetheless need to keep on the paths that our hopes and ideals
take us. If only because, to find our
way out of the darkest times we need to push forward, follow our dreams and make
plans for what comes next regardless of what the critics say.
As always I am more concerned for those who come next, those
who hope to try something new, and whose who have made great and improbable
plans to explore our nation and the world.
I worry that they will see the challenges we have faced, note the
setbacks, witness the critiques, and are terrified at the types of things
people are willing to 'say' to us.
I worry that because of these things the next generation will come to
the conclusion that what they want to do is not possible and that it is too
hard – and that because of this will not try.

Because of this I
want to send out this message : Yes
there are obstacles to be overcome. Yes
there are always going to be those who will attack and defame one if you strive
to do something different. Despite it
all however you can (and need to) keep going.
The world might fight and scream and push back, and it might seem
impossible to go on. But there are also
a lot of amazing people and groups out there ready to help you forward when
things are at their darkest. When
everything seems to collapse, when the whole world seems to turn on you, and
when everyone screams stop – trust that you are not alone and can find a way
forward.
Patience, time, and hope can overcome more than we give them
credit for. As we are often wonderfully
reminded “the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice”
and while “progress isn’t always a straight line or a smooth path” and that the
road maybe hard and journey maybe long, we must nonetheless move forward –
together.
While it is true that I have temporarily suspended this expedition given the
circumstances of the moment and out of public necessity – but I’m still
standing and I am going back onto the trail to explore this amazing nation. Follow your dreams and push forward. There is so much in this world that is
amazing, beautiful and worthy of exploration.